One of the most challenging aspects of becoming a new mum is the identity change. You may still be the intelligent career driven woman who enjoys personal time and a book on the weekend but it can feel as if that woman slowly slips away. Here are a few things you can do to make sure that you, and those around you aren’t losing touch with the woman you are.
Your whole life can become overrun with nappies, drool and baby talk. It’s important to take time away from your mum life and engage with adults about adult topics. It can feel like often your friends are more excited to see your new born than they re to see you. Make sure you stay in touch and nurture these relationships too by spending quality child free time with them.
The first few weeks are full of family and friends rushing to tend to every need, and it can be easier to say no than to accept that the birth of your child is hard and that you need help. People want to help, and they will be excited to spend time with your new baby while you take some time away.
You will hear from everyone that you should sleep when the baby sleeps. But babies sleep a lot and you aren’t always able to switch off and have a nap in the middle of the day. If you don’t feel like sleeping, don’t. Spend the time with yourself and take care of yourself. If you need to clean up for 10 minutes so you can think straight do that. If you need to just sit and read a mindless gossip mag, that’s the way to go. There is no right or wrong, just do you.
It can be so tempting when your clothes don’t fit, you know they will get vomit on them, and your just staying at home to not get dressed in the morning. Taking that 2 minutes to change out of your pyjamas into your clothes will make you feel more like your usual self than you would think. Don’t neglect the things that used to bring you pride and make you feel good, even if only the baby sees your new dress.
5. Connect with other new Mums